It takes two to tango - my family and diagnosis

Let me tell you about telling some family members that I have HIV. I called my brother the night I was diagnosed. I wanted to tell him and was looking for some support, I guess. I left a message and after five days I called again. I left a second message and called back two days later.  

My sister-in-law answered the phone and I told her about my finding out I have HIV. She said both my brother and her had bigger problems to worry about as they’d found out my mother had terminal cancer. I did feel sorry for my mum, but have had a strained relationship with her, if I’m being honest.   

The next day my brother called to tell me he wasn't surprised, since he always expected the news. Why, because I’m gay?

Although I am close to both my brother and his wife they will never know how much they both hurt me with their separate reactions.

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Community Consensus Statement on Access to HIV Treatment and its Use for Prevention

Together, we can make it happen

We can end HIV soon if people have equal access to HIV drugs as treatment and as PrEP, and have free choice over whether to take them.

Launched today, the Community Consensus Statement is a basic set of principles aimed at making sure that happens.

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